Wednesday, April 15, 2009

One of the best messages on love

To My Friends Who Are…MARRIED Love is not about “it’s your fault”, but “I’m sorry”, not “where are you’ but “I’m right here”, not “how could you” but “I understand”, not “I wish you were”, but “I’m thankful you are.”
To My Friends Who Are…ENGAGED
The true measure of compatibility is not the years spent together but how good you are for each other.
To My Friends Who Are…NOT SO SINGLE
Love isn’t about becoming somebody else’s “perfect person.” It’s about finding someone who helps you become the best person you can be.
To My Friends Who Are…HEARTBROKEN
Heartbreaks last as long as you want and cut deep as you allow them to go. The challenge is not how to survive heartbreaks but to learn from them.
To My Friends Who Are…NAIVE
How to be in love: Fall but don’t stumble, be consistent but not too persistent, share and never be unfair, understand and try not to demand, and get hurt but never keep the pain.
To My Friends Who Are…SEARCHING
True love cannot be found where it does not truly exist, nor can it be hidden where it truly does. Love is magic. The more we hide it, the more it shows; the more you suppress it, the more it grows.
Never say I love if you don’t care. Never talk about feelings if they aren’t there. Never touch a life if you mean to break a heart. Never look in the eye when what you do is lie. The cruelest thing a guy can do to a girl is to let her fall in love when he doesn’t intend to catch her fall.
To My Friends Who Are…POSSESSIVE
It breaks your heart to see the one you love happy with someone else but it’s more painful to know that the one you love is unhappy with you.
Love hurts when you break up with someone. It hurts even more when someone breaks up with you. But love hurts the most when the person you love has no idea how you feel.
To My Friends Who Are…STILL HOLDING ON
A sad thing about life is that when you meet someone who means a lot to you, only to find out in the end that it was never bound to be and we just have to let go.
To My Friends Who Are…SINGLE
Love is like a butterfly. The more you chase it, the more it eludes you. But if you just let it fly, it would come to you when you least expect it. Love can make you happy but often times it hurts, but love’s only special when you give it to someone who is worth it. So take your time and choose the best!

Tuesday, March 24, 2009

I choose....

It’s quiet. It’s early. My coffee is hot. The sky is still black. The world is still asleep. The day is coming. In a few moments the day will arrive. It will roar down the track with the rising of the sun. The stillness of the dawn will be exchanged for the noise of the day. The calm of the solitude will be replaced by the pounding pace of the human race. The refuge of the early morning will be invaded by decisions to be made and deadlines to be met. For the next twelve hours I will be exposed to the day’s demands. It is now that I must make a choice. Because of Calvary, I’m free to choose.
And so I choose. I choose love…No occasion justifies hatred; no injustice warrants bitterness. I choose love. Today I will love God and what God loves.
I choose joy…I will invite my God to be the God of circumstance. I will refuse the temptation to be cynical… the tool of the lazy thinker. I will refuseto see people as anything less than human beings, created by God. I will refuse to see any problem as anything less than an opportunity to see God.
I choose peace…I will live forgiven. I will forgive so that I may live.
I choose patience…I will overlook the inconveniences of the world. Instead of cursing the one who takes my place, I will invite him to do so. Rather than complain that the wait is too long, I will thank God for a moment to pray. Instead of clenching my fists at new assignments, I will face them with joy and courage.
I choose kindness…I will be kind to the poor, for they are alone. I will be kind to the rich for they are afraid. And kind to the unkind for that is how God has treated me.
I choose goodness…I will go without a dollar before I take a dishonest one. I will be overlooked before I boast. I will confess before I accuse. I choose goodness.
I choose faithfulness… Today I will keep my promises. My debtors willnot regret their trust. My associates will not question my word. My wife will not question my love. And my child will never fear that their mother will not come home.
I choose gentleness…Nothing is won by force. I choose to be gentle. If I raise my voice may it be only in praise. If I clench my fist, may it be only in prayer. If I make a demand, may it be only of myself.
I choose self-control… I am a spiritual being. After this body is dead, my spirit will soar. I refuse to let what will rot, rule the eternal. I choose self-control. I will be drunk only by joy. I will be impassioned only by my faith. I will be influenced only by God. I will be taught only by Christ. I choose self-control.
Love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. To these I commit my day. If I succeed, I will give thanks. If I fail, I will seek His grace. And then, when this day is done, I will place my head on my pillow and rest.
But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, long~suffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, meekness and temperance. Against such there is no law.

Tuesday, February 24, 2009


It's fun to cook for Earl. Today I made angel food cake. The recipe said beat 12 eggs separately. The neighbors were nice enough to loan me some extra bowls.
Earl wanted fruit salad for supper. The recipe said serve without dressing. So I didn't dress. What a surprise when Earl brought a friend home for supper.
A good day for rice. The recipe said wash thoroughly before steaming the rice. It seemed kind of silly but I took a bath anyway. I can't say it improved the rice any.
Today Earl asked for salad again I tried a new recipe. It said prepare ingredients; lay on a bed of lettuce one hour before serving. Earl asked me why I was rolling around in the garden..
I found an easy recipe for cookies. It said put the ingredients in a bowl and beat it. There must have been something wrong with this recipe. When I got back, everything was the same as when I left.
Earl did the shopping today and brought home a chicken. He asked me to dress it for Sunday. I don't have any clothes that fit it, and for some reason Earl keeps counting to ten.
Earl's folks came to dinner. I wanted to serve roast but all I had was hamburger. Suddenly I had a flash of genius.. I put the hamburger in the oven and set the controls for roast. It still came out hamburger, much to my disappointment.

GOOD NIGHT DEAR DIARY. This has been a very exciting week! I am eager for tomorrow to come so I can try out a new recipe on Earl. If I can talk Earl into buying a bigger oven, I would like to surprise him with a chocolate moose.

Sunday, February 15, 2009

What actually Love is

Why do we close our eyes when we sleep? When we cry?

When we imagine? When we kiss?

This is because the most beautiful things inthe world are unseen.
We are all a little weird and life’s a little weird
and when we find someone whose weirdnessis compatible with ours,
we join up with them and fall inmutual weirdness and call it love.
There are things that we never want to let go of,

people we never want to leave behind,

but keep in mind that letting go isn’t the end of the world,

it’s the beginning of a new life.
Happiness lies for those who cry, those who hurt, those who have searched and

those who have tried. For only they can appreciate the importance of the people who have touched their lives.
A great love? It’s when you shed tears and still

you care for him, it’s when he ignores you and still you long for him.

It’s when he begins to love another and yet you still smile and say I’m happy for you.
If love fails, set yourself free, let your heart spread its wings and fly again.

Remember you may find love and lose it,
but when love dies,

you never have to die with it.
The strongest people are not those who always win but those
who stand back up when they fall.
Somehow along the course of life,
you learn about yourself

and realize there should never be regrets,
only a life long appreciation of

the choices you’ve made.
A true friend understands when you say, I forgot,waits forever when you say,

just a minute, stays when you say leave me alone,

opens the door even before you knock and says can I come in?
Loving is not how you forget but how you forgive,

not how you listen but how you understand,

not what you see but how you feel, and not how you let go but how you hold on.
It’s more dangerous to weep inwardly rather than outwardly.

Outward tears can be wiped away while secret tears scar forever.
In love, very rarely do we winbut when love is true, even if you lose,

you still win just for having the tingle of loving someone more than you love yourself.
There comes a time when we have to stop loving someone

not because that person has stopped loving us but because we have found out

that they’d be happier if we let go.
It’s best to wait for the one you want than settle for one that’s available.

Best to wait for the one you love than one who is around.

Best to wait for the right one because life is too short to waste on just someone.
Sometimes the one you love turns out to be the one who hurts you the most,

and sometimes the friend who takes you into his arms and cries when you cry

turns out to be the love you never knew you wanted.
If you really love someone never let go,
don’t believe that letting go means that you love best,

instead fight for your love,that’s what true love is.
Laugh to your heart’s content; you cannot go through life without it.

Wednesday, February 11, 2009

True Love

True love is a sacred flame
That burns eternally,
And none can dim its special glow
Or change its destiny.
True love speaks in tender tones
And hears with gentle ear,
True love gives with open heart
And true love conquers fear.
True love makes no harsh demands
It neither rules nor binds,
And true love holds with gentle hands
The hearts that it entwines.
Helen Steiner Rice

Tuesday, February 10, 2009


There are many things that you can do to strengthen your relationships. Often the most effective thing you can do involves saying just three words. When spoken sincerely, these statements often have the power to develop new friendships, deepen old ones and even bring healing to relationships that have soured.
The following three-word phrases can be tools to help develop and nurture every relationship:

Let me help. Good friends see a need and then try to fill it. When they see a hurt they do what they can to heal it. Without being asked, they jump in and help out.
I understand you. People become closer and enjoy each other more when the other person accepts and understands them. Letting your spouse know - in so many little ways - that you understand them, is one of the most powerful tools for healing your relationship. And this can apply to any relationship.
I respect you. Respect is another way of showing love. Respect demonstrates that another person is a true equal.
I miss you. Perhaps more marriages could be saved and strengthened if couples simply and sincerely said to each other “I miss you.” This powerful affirmation tells partners they are wanted, needed, desired and loved. Consider how important you would feel, if you received an unexpected phone call from your spouse or a friend in the middle of your workday, just to say “I miss you.” This can apply to any relationship.
Maybe you’re right. This phrase is very effective in diffusing an argument. The implication when you say “maybe you’re right” is the humility of admitting, “maybe I’m wrong”. Let’s face it, when you have an argument with someone, all you normally do is solidify the other person’s point of view. They, or you, will not likely change their position and you run the risk of seriously damaging the relationship between you. Saying “maybe you’re right” can open the door to explore the subject more. You may then have the opportunity to express your view in a way that is understandable to the other person.
Please forgive me. Many broken relationships could be restored and healed if people would admit their mistakes and ask for forgiveness. All of us are vulnerable to faults, foibles and failures. A man should never be shamed to own up that he has been in the wrong, which is saying, in other words, that he is wiser today than he was yesterday.
I thank you. Gratitude is an exquisite form of courtesy. People who enjoy the companionship of good, close friends are those who don’t take daily courtesies for granted. They are quick to thank their friends for their many expressions of kindness. On the other hand, people whose circle of friends is severely constricted often do not have the attitude of gratitude.
Count on me. A friend is one who walks in when others walk out. Loyalty is an essential ingredient for true friendship. It is the emotional glue that bonds people. Those that are rich in their relationships tend to be steady and true friends. When troubles come, a good friend is there indicating “you can count on me.”
I’ll be there. If you have ever had to call a friend in the middle of the night, to take a sick child to hospital, or when your car has broken down some miles from home, you will know how good it feels to hear the phrase “I’ll be there.” Being there for another person is the greatest gift we can give. When we are truly present for other people, important things happen to them and us. We are renewed in love and friendship. We are restored emotionally and spiritually. Being there is at the very core of civility.
Go for it. We are all unique individuals. Don’t try to get your friends to conform to your ideals. Support them in pursuing their interests, no matter how far out they seem to you. God has given everyone dreams, dreams that are unique to that person only. Support and encourage your friends to follow their dreams. Tell them to “go for it.”
I love you. Perhaps the most important three words that you can say. Telling someone that you truly love them satisfies a person’s deepest emotional needs. The need to belong, to feel appreciated and to be wanted. Your spouse, your children, your friends and you, all need to hear those three little words: “I love you.” Love is a choice. You can love even when the feeling is gone.
GOD BLESS YOU! (These are 3 words too, right?)

Monday, February 9, 2009

Sweet Love

People need people and friends need friends,
And we all need love for a full life depends
Not on vast riches or great acclaim,
Not on success or on worldly fame,
But just in knowing that someone cares
And holds us close in their thoughts and prayers -
For only the knowledge that we’re understood
Makes everyday living feel wonderfully good.
And we rob ourselves of life’s greatest need
When we “lock up our hearts” and fail to heed
The outstreched hand reaching to find
A kindred spirit whose heart and mind
Are lonely and longing to some how share
Our joys and sorrows and to make us aware
That life’s completeness and richness depends
On the things we share with our loved ones and friends.
by Helen Steiner Rice